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Father's Day Fandom

The person who taught me the most about being a fan didn’t even like my team.

I tell people all the time my love for the Cowboys comes from my mom. And it did.

But it was my father who taught me how to be a fan. How loyalty is paramount.

But first off let me tell you a few things about my dad.

Number one, my father is a Denver Broncos fan. And to tell you the truth I kinda felt sorry for him when I was a kid. He’s a Colorado Buffaloes fan as well. When I was growing up it always seemed like those teams would come close but never win the big one. The University of Colorado saw success in the late ‘80s and mid-‘90s but not enough to justify a lifetime of loyalty. Denver had it’s run of Super Bowl losses when I was in grade school. But he was always there. He almost broke his ankle in excitement after the Miracle at Michigan. Who’s that jumping up and down like he won the Super Bowl after Kordell Stewart’s 64-yard Hail Mary to Michael Westbrook? That’s my dad.  

Number two, my father is an extremely loyal person. His loyalty didn’t stop with the Broncos. My father has simple rules: share everything, be honest and always pull for each other. As kids sometimes it’s easy to be a contrarian. But my father was having none of it. We all support each other. It doesn’t matter if it’s bills, school clothes or sports teams. We’re all in this together.

So he accepted that the Broncos weren’t the main attraction in our house. The Cowboys were. Sunday afternoon’s after church we would race home to watch them. We’d stop by KFC, grab some food, my dad would grab a beer or two and we’d watch the game. My father through osmosis became a huge Cowboys fan. For no better reason, than his son and his wife were crazy about them. He loved us. We loved them. He loved them.  It made sense to him. And thus my mom and I became huge Broncos fans. We jumped up and down in our living room as John Elway engineered “The Drive.” We bought Super Bowl sweaters and mugs for him when the Broncos finally won a Super Bowl. He cheered during our dynasty and walked us back from the ledge when Jimmy left. We’re all in this together.

Number three, my father didn’t just watch the game – he experienced it as if he were there. Probably the most enduring trait I received from my dad was his intensity while watching the game. My mother and fiancée would probably call it insanity. He really got into it. My dad was a college football player and wrestler and the old juices started to flow during the game. My dad was a humble preacher during the week. A gentle man sharing God’s message to his parishioners. But during the game he was a foul-mouthed, yelling and screaming lunatic. Players who weren’t tough became “pooh-butts” and players who didn’t hustle became other 12-word expletives. He was enthusiastic. He was emotional. He cared about the game. He was the squarest, most straight-laced guy I’ve ever known and one Danny White interception turned him into Richard Pryor. I loved it.

I guess my point is, on this Father’s Day, I’m reflecting on all the things my father gave me and taught me. There are so many. He gave me so much. But right at this time, right at this moment, I’m very appreciative for what he taught me about sports and how that’s affected my life. The Cowboys haven’t won a playoff game in more than 10 years. Our quarterback has been ridiculed for his love life. Our main offensive weapon is one of the most vilified people in sports. We’ve just acquired a player most people regard as a thug and a criminal. But I’m still here. I know we’ll get it done. We’re all in this together.

I learned it from the best.

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Thanks TH

the most personal things are always the toughest to express. Your Dad sounds like a great guy, and the best fathers pass something of value along to their sons and daughters.

Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig loves it.

by dunkman on Jun 15, 2008 4:46 PM CDT reply actions  

my dad is a big Steelers fan

to this day, he thinks I became a Cowboys fan just to piss him off. lol

In Romo we Trust

by Terry on Jun 15, 2008 6:02 PM CDT reply actions  

that is hilarious... so is Terry's story

I grew up in Giants country. My grandfather has had season tickets since the 60s… though my dad has had them since the Joe Pisarcik fumble (79?)—and Grandpa has never gone back to another Giants game. And, of course, they hate that I am a Cowboys fan, though they still give me the tickets to the Giants – Cowboys game every year.

Tar Heels football will surprise this year

by DalaiLuke on Jun 16, 2008 9:32 AM CDT up reply actions  

any

bad experiences as a fan when you go to the Meadowlands?

by Scoobay on Jun 16, 2008 10:39 AM CDT up reply actions  

I have a touching story as well, although sadder perhaps

I was running around a park this afternoon, watching the college kids playing ultimate frisbee. I saw one young man get out of his car, a car with a Philadelphia Eagles license plate holder. I couldn’t help but wonder what he might have made of himself if he had been fortunate enough to have a father…

Give me a second. I’m having a moment…

Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig loves it.

by dunkman on Jun 15, 2008 6:30 PM CDT reply actions  

Happy Father's Day

I have been a Cowboys fan since my father and I met the team in 1972 by accident while staying at an Irving hotel prior to the game. He and I never forgot that fortunate encounter, and almost two decades later we attended a pre-season game together and sat near the Cowboys bench, on the 50 yard line. By chance, we had seen the Cowboys just at the beginning of their two Super Bowl championship eras.

My kids are fervent Cowboys fans. However, growing up in this area with many “transplants,” some of my sons’ friends could not even root for the Cowboys growing up due to their parents’ upbringing in Philly or N.Y. I felt sorry that while the their school mates were excited as Dallas was winning Super Bowls, these kids were somewhat forced to support a team to which they had no ties, except that their parents grew up there. But, these kids grew up in DALLAS, not some other area. So, when they grow up and someone hears they are from Dallas, they might be asked about how great it must have been to be here as a kid when the Cowboys were winning Super Bowls. But it wasn’t for them because their parents still thought they live in Philly/New York/Wisconsin (insert area) and wouldn’t even let their kids cheer for the local team although most were native Texans by birth.

I have left my kids with this message with respect to professional sports: Embrace where you live. If you are working, living, owning a home in an area, support the local arts, sports, lifestyle and governments. Pro sports, especially, are about local pride. Be proud of wherever it is that you have chosen to live. If that’s one of those areas that has an NFC team, support them. But, that doesn’t mean that the Cowboys can’t always be #1 in your heart and that you can’t support them, also. Just don’t raise your kids to root against the local guys. Just my opinion.

by rrb on Jun 15, 2008 6:41 PM CDT reply actions  

We had a different take

my kids were all Army “brats”, so they grew up, well, everywhere. The one constant in their sports lives were Texas sports teams – the Cowboys, the Spurs, the Astros/Rangers… We live in Virginia now, but can still get together on Sundays (or the odd Thursday or Saturday) and root as one family. When we get together for dinner, we talk about roster moves and the last game or the next season.

A sad note, though. My second son is in a mixed marriage (she’s a Skins fan) but we treat her well as we can…

Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig loves it.

by dunkman on Jun 15, 2008 8:39 PM CDT up reply actions  

the cowboys are different

from most other teams in that their fan base is so widespread. many people have no local connection with texas but still love the cowboys. i’m not really sure the reason, other than the “america’s team” image they managed to cultivate which is kind of self-perpetuating in terms of widespread fandom. now you have children (and grandchildren) of cowboys fans, regardless of where they grew up. i grew up in colorado (southwest, not around denver, but still we got denver tv), but neither of my parents were sports fans at all. then my mom dated a guy who was a cowboys fan (and high school football ref) and he got me into the game. and this was the mid-70s so it was easy to root for them. and i rooted against my local team in SB XII. it’s funny, my dad was never into football when i was younger, and it was something we never connected about. but then somewhere over the years he go into it and is now a broncos fan. i’ve lived far away from him for most of my life (hawaii-colorado) but he visited us for christmas this year, and for the first time in my life i enjoyed watching some football games with my dad, even if we didn’t share a team to root for. sadly the first game we watched was our loss to Philly in week 15, which was pretty lame. but still fun to watch with my dad.

by scottmaui on Jun 15, 2008 8:54 PM CDT up reply actions  

haha

‘mixed marriage’...

by Scoobay on Jun 16, 2008 9:32 AM CDT up reply actions  

I'm going to be like your second son

My girlfriend is a Skins fan (her family has been in DC forever) and it’s a little awkward when I’m around her family. Thankfully they like me anyway. What’s kind of hilarious is that my girlfriend is some kind of crazy good luck charm for the Boys. They have won every game we’ve watched together (except for the skins game at DC 2 years ago), and a few of them in miracle fashion (Buffalo, Philly in the McNabb injury game). The sample size here is over 10 games across 3 seasons, too.

If only I could get her to watch more often…

by grapejoos on Jun 16, 2008 10:53 AM CDT up reply actions  

Agreed about not raising kids to root against the local guys

That said, I grew up in Dallas when they were winning Super Bowls in the 90s and subsequently moved to Washington and NYC (and Atlanta). It’s strange to be living most of the time in a market where the Cowboys are public enemy #1. I’m not sure where I’ll be when I start a family, but I’m going to do my best to pass down my love of the Cowboys without passing down my hatred of whatever the local team is :)

I guess my point is that I can’t support the local football teams in those instances (though I do support the Caps in DC and the Braves in ATL). I wish there were a likeable NBA team in NYC to support so I could pick up a team here.

All this said, I’m an stickler against “sports bigamy,” and if I learned to stop the hate, I’d probably live longer.

by grapejoos on Jun 16, 2008 10:49 AM CDT up reply actions  

whats local to you rrb?

what if the closest NFL city is 75 miles from where you live? Would you consider that team local?

I personally think unless you live in the city or immediate surrounding areas, you should be able to root for whoever you want and screw the “screw” the local team because you don’t live there. I never understood this closest geographical proximity BS.

In Romo we Trust

by Terry on Jun 16, 2008 4:04 PM CDT up reply actions  

Imagine retiring to America's Bone Yard

and being forced to root for the Cardinals. It’s inhuman, I tell you.

Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig loves it.

by dunkman on Jun 16, 2008 6:01 PM CDT up reply actions  

Thanks dunkman

Thanks for your service to our country, dunkman. We have a better life in this nation because of it.

by rrb on Jun 15, 2008 10:25 PM CDT reply actions  

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