[UPDATED]: This Cowboys fan needs your love

A loss like that is something that should never have to happen to anyone. I am here for you if you need any comforting words my friend, and just fight through because like you said your daughter would want you to live on. I will pray for you and am truly sorry this is just horrible and I hope you two find some strength.

My sincerest condolences to you and your wife. Best wishes to both of you, during this very difficult time. You’ll be in my thoughts.

Paul Im am truly sorry for your loss. My prayers on are the way. If you find yourself in the New Orleans area and there is anything I can do dont hesitate to ask. Hang in thereand though you may question it from time to time God loves you, lean on him.

Hang in there my friend. Words cannot express how sorry I am for you both but keep breathing and I’ll be sending you strength.

Wishing you and your wife much strength and wisdom through your difficult time. God Bless.

I can’t imagine how you feel. You will be in my prayers.

So sorry to hear the loss, but I will be praying and keeping you and your family in my thoughts. We will all be with you.

Situations like this put life into prespective. I can not begin to imagine what you are going through. May God give you the strength you will need to get past this.

May God grant you the solace to make it through this incredibly difficult time. Deeply saddened and very sorry for your loss.

Paul, Words can not expressed how sad I am for your loss. This is a time that we put aside the on field talk and off field non sense and we ban together as brothers and sons of our Lord. God bless you sir.

I have a similar situation with my job and not being able to have close friends. I feel the same about the people on this blog—they are great.

My wife and sons will be diligently praying for you. We are very sad for your loss. I looked at the picture of your daughter—what a precious girl.

God bless you.

I’m sorry to write that in spanish, but it’s my first language and I feel that those words are more meaningful for me and that’s what I wanted you to know…

“Peaceful rest for your girl and I wish for mind strength for you and your wife”.

I’ll pray and you have to live on.

BTW, you shouldn’t feel bad for feeling the need of writing something like this in here, we’re humans and it’s natural, and you can count on our shoulders.

You will be in my families’ prayers.

GOD BLESS!!!!

Although no words can really help to ease the loss you bear, just know that you are very close in every thought and prayer. Know that the Cowboys’ Nation will be prayin’ for ya’ll. God bless.

God bless you and your family.

I really don’t know what to say. You’ll be in me and my wife’s prayers.

As someone said earlier, this puts life in perspective. God Bless your little girl and give your family the strength to deal with this horrible tragedy.

As a parent with a young child and another one on the way, I cannot possibly imagine what you are going through. But know that I and all of your fellow BTBer’s are here for you and thinking about you and your family.

and may God bring you peace in this diificult time, y’all will be in my family’s prayers.

Walt Whitman

I have a son about the same age that I love very dearly, so I understand what it feels like for someone to be your entire world. I do not understand what it means to loose someone like that and my thoughts and prayers are definitely with you. Loosing a child is a big fear for a parent but I think it is important to realize that your child definitely appreciates the 4 years you gave her. A while ago I was wondering whether or not to have more children. I spoke to another parent about whether bringing a child into a world with so many problems would be the best thing for that child. My freind told me that he is sure that child would want to live. That if even if it was for one day the child would want to live. I know this is true as well because it rang true within my soul and conciousness. If today were my last day I would want to live it. I guess what I am trying to say is that you must be in real pain right now, but this pain is for your daughter. If you could take it all back and save yourself from this pain, your daughter would have never had the four glorious years I am sure she did. So right now I am sure she is thanking you for her time. You will meet again. God Bless you and your family, especially your daughter.

I will definitely be praying for you.

I am so sorry for you loss.

No words right now can help ease what you are dealing with, but if theres anything i could do let me know…

I can’t possibly know how you feel, but please accept my heartful sympathy. My wife and I were not able to have children because of a 50/50 chance of her degenerative eye condition being passed on. For many decades we have dedicated our lives to to the rescue of abandoned cats. They were our children. About two years ago the neighborhood kids found an abandoned litter. They brought two of the approx 6 week old kittens to us in a flower pot. As we looked down ,the female stood over her brother while he cowered in the bottom of the pot. She was hissing and doing everything she could to defend him. Right then and there, we adopted them. They turned out to be the sweetest kittens a person could ask for. Especially the female. With our care they were growing strong and we expected to have them for many years to come. We lost her about a month ago to a very rare and swiftly moving disease. We were devastated. We understand what loss is, whether it be an animal or a child. Take heart, she will be waiting for you.

Me and the fioncee will pray for you tonight.

May your little girl rest in peace. I know there is nothing that can ease your pain. Take comfort in the days you did have together. Know she will live on in your hearts. I hope the words of our entire community here bring some comfort in this terrible time. God Bless.

I hope you can find and yours find some consolation in knowing that she is in God’s embrace now.

i’m sorry can’t begin to convey my feelings for your loss. it really hit home. you see, my fiance and i are expecting a baby girl in a couple of weeks. i will be a father for the first time and already i can feel myself changing. you just have to believe that you will be reunited with her one day. i can’t even begin to imagine how you must feel. my heart goes out to you and your wife.

I am a father of four. By Gods grace, your pain is one I can only imagine.

My best friend was the father of one before his son died tragically at a young age. After the grieving process he shared his perspective with me and it has made me a better man and a better father.

He told me that he believed that in a broken world, tragedy and death are inevitable. In his sons shortened life he needed daily love and care and that as a father, it had been a privilege to be the one selected to provide it to him. He shared that is true, that the pain never goes away, but it hurts less over time. He ephisied that the memories of the joy and the satisifaction of knowing his child was loved immensly everyday they walked the earth have not gone away and have not faded over time.

May God confort and bless you and your family in this time.

- Trey

Such a loss is something you may never want to get over, but something you can only get through. Take care of yourself and your family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

I am extremely saddened to hear about you loss as no parent should ever bury their child. I will keep you in my thoughts and I hope you and your family can find a way through this extremely difficult time.

I am truely sorry.
I don’t even know what to say

No words.

Please don’t be afraid to seek help for yourself and your wife. There are many support groups, clergy, professionals, etc. that are there for you. You don’t have to deal with this alone.

I have a two year old son and my chest ached when I read about your daughter. I cannot say how I would feel, though I’m sure, weaker than you, I would probably fall apart.

I can only say that I am willing to you and your wife all the strength and love that I have. God bless you, and you will be in our thoughts and prayers.

If there is anything else we can do to help you, you only have to ask.

Nothing can replace what you had. It does not need replacing but to be treasured as I know you both will the rest of your days.

I can tell you from experiences that pain and loss can focus us on the darkness around us or it can refocus us on God, who is light and love and mercy. He has not deserted you. In these dark hours we can only remind ourselves again and again that we are not alone and that there is light in Him. I remind myself that everyday is a blessing that I do not deserve.

Blessings upon you my brother and sister. Please keep us in touch.

- Lee

My wife is fighting breast cancer right now, seemingly losing the battle. I have begged God to let me trade places, cursed Him, and finally asked him to forgive me for whatever I had done wrong.

He answered me by giving me strength to carry on. Sometimes it seems more a curse than a blessing. But the other day, I was able to help another terminal cancer patient and her husband and knew that God had sent me to ease their suffering.

The hurt never goes away, but allow yourself to turn the pain and experience into a blessing for others. You know that God has a plan for you. He will never give you more than you can handle. Keep your eyes on the Lord and your daughter will live through you and your wife forever.

I’m sure I speak for all here that if you ever need to talk/chat/whatever, we’re here for you.

I wish I could write what’s truly in my heart, but hope that somehow you get the intent…God loves you and He’s promised to care of your daughter while you continue your journey in this life.

I have two children of my own and can only imagine…..My cousin lost his daughter, alot younger than yours two years ago and I know how difficult it was for him…..Take it day by day and try to stay strong…

Paul,

I have two four year olds. They are precious to me. I will keep you in my prayers. And I would offer you this word from a friend of mine that lost his young child. We were riding in the limo on the way to the grave side and I was expressing my sympathy. He pulled himself up and wiped away a tear. He told me that he rejoiced in the 5 years that God had given him with his young daughter. His outlook was amazing to me. I felt the loss of this young child in all our lives but he saw the joy he had, rather than what he lost.

Remember the child you loved; and cherish the moments you were given. Each one was a gift that you can carry with you for the rest of your life.

May the Lord give you peace.

keep your head up and stay strong, even though it must be hard to do. God bless

We don’t see the sense in things like this, but we live in a world of tragedy. Know that God loves you, your family, and your daughter. He grieves for you and He is there for comfort. He truly is there to carry our burdens. I have a baby girl and I love her so much, so my heart goes out to you. I am praying for you!

I have two daughters — ages 9 and 5 — and they’re my world, too. I couldn’t even imagine how challenging these times must be for you, but I’m sure that it truly hurts. I actually cried when I read this post.

My sincere condolences.

Please know that me and my family will be praying for you.

Cannot express how sorry I am for your loss Paul. Stay strong and keep your faith in this most difficult time. I’ll be praying for you and yours. I may hug my daughter a little bit tighter when I get home tonight….and every night from here on out. Your online family is here for you….

I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you and your wife are experiencing. Stay strong and know that this community wishes you and yours the best.

Your wife needs you the most now. I have four chilren myself. Losing one of them is my biggest fears. Noone should ever have to bury a child. Nothing i can tell you can make the pain go away. Just be strong. We are all here for you.

In this time of tragedy, I hope and pray that you and your wife can find the strength to get through this. I hope you guys stay strong through all of this.

All you can do in this life is try to love your fellow brothers and sisters as best you can. The pain of losing a child is unimaginable, and devastating. Yet you can always remember the love you two shared as you go on with your own life. Keep it near your heart always and let it give you strength. Peace to you and your family.

Very sorry Paul from B-more with a heavy heart. Stay strong.

.. I have rewritten this several times, nothing sounds appropriate in such a devastating time. I pray that in time the hurt will diminish. I’m very sorry for your loss.

No words can ease the pain you must feel.
You and your family will be in my heart.
Sinceres condoleances
Helene

I don’t believe life puts things in our path that we cannot overcome. I have a 17 month old little girl and I cant imagine her not being in my life for more then a shift at work much less the rest of my life. It has always been said that a parent should never have to bury their child. There is no hurt like it….

But keep your head up. take it one minute at a time, know that she would want you to be happy, healthy and well. While a heart never stops hurting or grieving from this kind of loss, what you can do is grow the rest of your heart bigger so the pain takes up less space over all.

Peace be on you and your family.

I already posted earlier, but wanted to let you know you are still in our thoughts. I’m sure today is going to be tough day for you. We’re still here for you.

You’re in all of our prayers, and just remember that we’re all here for you.

You’re one of my favorite bloggers on this site and I can’t begin to express how bad I feel for you. There is nothing on this planet worse than losing a child.

There is only one thing those remaining behind can and must and that is to keep our loved one alive – in our thoughts, in our hearts, in the way we live, in the way we love.

Hang in there, my friend.

As a father of two girls ages 26 & 11 (yes I have a kid every 15 years…whether i need to or not) I can’t imagine the loss you must be feeling. Paul,we’ve conversed quite a bit (being Cowboys diehards and UNC alums) and I can promise you that you’re in my families prayers.
If theres anything I can do please call on me….Hey I’m right here in Virginia…not too far away!

Hang in there buddy!

Jerry
TrueBlue24

My prayers go out to your family

I know that God can give you the strength to pass through this. Trust, and He will be there for you. As well, I hope your wife and yourself become closer together as a result of this tragedy.

I’m a father of two young ones, a 3 year old boy, and an 18 month old daughter. I’ll give then an extra hug today. Don’t stop loving and caring, we’re here for you.

Hopefully in the fullness of time the anguish of your loss with leave you and be replaced with bittersweet memories.

Words alone will not mean much to you right now, but I pray that you may find a small measure of comfort in the love and concern that surrounds you from so many who care on this site.

That is truly awful. Although nothing can replace the loss of a child, things will get better.

From a fellow Tar Heel, my best wishes and prayers. I have 19 nieces and nephews and we almost lost one earlier this year, yet I still cannot imagine your position… good luck finding peace in the moment, reconciliation with the past, and brightness in your tomorrows.

There is a famous story that I thought I’d share, as it might offer some opening for you…

At a conference of top psychiatrists, the keynote speaker was finishing a talk when a question was posed to him – what would you do if none of these ideas were working? What would you do with a patient who just seemed at wit’s end? Rather than a standard professional answer, as expected, the speaker took a moment, and then said: “I would advise the person to go find someone that needed their help, and to focus all of their energy on helping someone else in need.”

There are two sides to the coin in this idea. First, for everyone that offers help to you, by accepting this help, you are allowing them to feel needed and thus valuable. This is, in itself, a gift of thanks.

Second, you may want to check out local groups that help out young kids. Whether it be big-buddy/ little buddy … orphaned kids … etc… I do this type of volunteer work in Thailand, and know that the need is everywhere. Maybe now’s not the time… maybe it won’t be the time for months or years, but just something to keep in mind.

“one of life’s greatest ironies is that no man can help another without helping himself.” -Emerson

Good luck, Paul

reading your post and the member’s responses. I won’t pretend to have any concept. Wow. This is my first visit to fan posts. I think I’ll go cry now.

I’m sorry for you Paul. Stay strong, bro.

And like SB Six, it brought a tear to my eye, also. My little girl is not much older than yours and I give her hugs and kisses everyday whether she wants them or not. I’m so sorry for your loss and you’re in our thoughts and prayers.